Comments on: Shaken Up

By: mrsblondies

mrsblondies — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 14:58:33 +0000

K.C.- Have you looked into doing Creighton Model/NaPro? I just started it, but All You Who Hope has been using it for 2 years. It might allow you to figure out what’s wrong, and you wouldn’t being doing ART. Talk to one of us if you want more info.

By: Arpee

Arpee — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 19:57:27 +0000

Hi! Found you in Mel’s (Stirrup) Blog Roll. You are the 2nd blogger today that I have read who have decided to move forward with ART. That’s awesome.

Anyway, I find your shift from being an engineer to a nurse very courageous. I am an engineer as well but I am exploring other vocations.

By: Soapchick

Soapchick — Sat, 20 Sep 2008 01:38:01 +0000

It’s okay to have a bad day, and besides that guy is clearly clueless about your feelings, or he wouldn’t have said what he said.

You have every right to feel the way you do, and don’t feel guilty. Life is up and down all the time, and so is our ability to handle it. Hang in there – you are a sweetie!

By: Jen

Jen — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 15:51:09 +0000

Everyone has ups and downs. It is totally understandable. Plus, that kind of news (and total unfairness) can hit anyone hard. I have lots of happy for them and unfair for me feelings when I hear about that kind of news.

By: sara

sara — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 14:20:56 +0000

KC – you are allowed to feel however you want to feel whenever you want to feel it. To hear news like that has got to be like pouring salt in an open wound, at least that’s how I felt when our friends announced pregnancies during our IUI or IVF cycles. So please continue to share any feelings you have with us when you feel up to it. We’re here to listen and to let you know you’re not alone in these feelings. I don’t think that these feelings ever truly go away – because once there they run so deep. We’re already forever changed whether we realize it or not. The fear and frustration lurks around every corner, but know I’m hear to peak around those corners with you – as corny as that sounds. I am. Sending you lots of hugs as well.

Off topic – but how excited were you that Kwamei’s last day was yesterday? If you heard cheering from the south – it was me! And yes – you are a sweetheart, anytime that you want to come by after you get stuff settled next week would be so fun and relaxing. It would be great to see you. That is very nice of you to offer

By: Jenileigh

Jenileigh — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 04:44:08 +0000

I don’t know what to say. I feel the exact same way. Sometimes I just get so angry. Its so frustrating. I’m praying for you, big hugs. Jenileigh

By: glenna

glenna — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 02:22:25 +0000

Oh man, this has happened to me more times than I care to remember! And it never seems to not sting. It’s just hard. I’m sorry it happened at such a crappy time, too. That makes it doubly hard.
Don’t worry about being strong all the time–we’ve all had those days…and I guess we will continue to.
But isn’t it hard talking to people who all they have to do is decide to have a baby and then-BAM! they’re pregnant. They get pregnant every time on the first try. I’m just in awe of that! We’ve been trying for 4.5 years now with not one pregnancy…so, I’m just amazed that people can get pregnant without really trying. Wow.

By: Emily

Emily — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 22:45:40 +0000

Aw, KC … If there’s one lesson (of many) that I’ve learned during my IF journey is that this feeling of longing and pain will never fully disappear. There will definitely be good days where everything is alright … but there will be those days like this one where it all goes to poop.

Just remember that you’re not alone in this journey.
HUGS!

By: All You Who Hope

All You Who Hope — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 22:08:44 +0000

You’re so sweet! I’m glad you got something out of my post. I figured I wasn’t the only one feeling that way

As for your friend and how you are feeling, don’t beat yourself up about it. I really think it is normal, and I would have felt the exact same way. And believe me, it took much less than that to get me upset before my cycle started this month. In fact, nothing even happened and I got depressed! It really is unbelievable how easy it is for some people. All we can do it keep trying and praying, I guess. You are in my prayers!

By: andrea_jennine

andrea_jennine — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 21:17:59 +0000

Oh, those times are so hard. I’ve had many of those, “Why does so-and-so’s announcement have to come right when my period is starting?” moments. A friend once shared with me an illustration of a person walking up stairs while holding a yo-yo; we’re like that yo-yo, going up and down, up and down, but in the right hands, we’re always moving up in the big picture. Hang in there!